Break A Leg 

Yep, that’s exactly what I did ten weeks ago during the dangerous activity of gardening. Unfortunately no-one was around so I had to crawl the 150 feet back to the house to call for help. The bones were set and cast that day, but I was told I needed surgery. 

I went home to take care of Becky and to make arrangements for the next day. Our friends jumped in to help, so after a sleepless night I headed back to the hospital knowing that Becky was in good hands. It was a long painful wait for surgery, but at 1 pm I was called in. I wasn’t nervous, I just wanted it over with so I could go home. 

I woke up several hours later feeling sleepy and nauseous. I passed out several times but finally started to come around another two hours later. I called my neighbour to come and pick me up. I guess I should have got dressed first. Oh well. Once dressed we headed home. 

I was surprised to find the house full of friends having a jolly time with Becky. It was a lovely sight. I settled on the couch and tried to relax. The morphine helped. 

I lived on the couch for two weeks. Neighbours and friends came daily to help out. I struggled to get around on crutches and found it exhausting to complete the simplest task. After two weeks I returned to the hospital to have the cast and staples removed and a new streamlined fibreglass cast put on. 

Our darling cat, Raspberry, stayed with me during six weeks of wearing a cast. 

And afterwards too.

I started physiotherapy as soon as possible. Sometimes Becky and I exercise together. 

Here we are practicing walking. I have been told that my recovery may take up to a year. I get to experience first hand some of Becky’s struggles and she gets to experience some of my worries. 

What a strange year we are having. I know these things happen but they seem to happen to us an awful lot. We are both looking forward to the future, thankful to have each other and a group of friends who care so deeply for us. 

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Trip to Bavaria

BBQ 16

I haven’t written lately because the WordPress App on my iPod wouldn’t let me.  I normally write on the fly, as do many of you, I think, so I haven’t written.  I just uploaded the new update, and now the App won’t open at all.  I thought it was about time that

1. I complained about it, and

2. I let you know what was happening

Becky announced one day that she was bored.  This is probably something that most of you with children can appreciate, but this is something new for Becky.  She was typically  happy to watch movies all day ( not that I ever let that happen) or go along with whatever activities were suggested to her.  She’s a pretty easy-going kinda gal, so “bored” meant there had been a change.  She had developed enough cognitively to now need greater intellectual stimulation.  Wow! This was a huge step forward, but also a bit of a scheduling nightmare.

First of all, Becky decided she didn’t want to cook anymore.  After two years, I had to let our chef go. Now what? I had a HUGE panic attack.  ‘What was I going to do with her seven days a week? What was I going to do with her for the foreseeable future? How was I going to manage with her for five years, or longer?’ I don’t know. We are brainstorming regularly, and have some ideas, but there is no clear path yet. We need definite days and times for community activities in order to hire new staff, but we just don’t have that sorted yet.  We are left with no staff and no plan while Becky tries to figure out what she wants.

The title of the post is the name of a Scottish Country Dance, where everybody is moving at once, in different directions, and often chaos ensues. Everybody ends up laughing.  It feels very chaotic right now, but I can’t see anything humourous.

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It has been a long, long winter. Becky and I have been stuck in the house for four months! The reasons are varied. Becky had surgery, the lift broke, frigid temperatures, I hurt my back, and the lift broke again.

This week, a new lift was going to be installed.


Unfortunately, the technician seemed unable to remove the old lift. Becky was in tears and I felt ill. We would have to wait a few more days.

We heard nothing from the company, even after I called and left a message. This was not looking good. I called again on Friday morning and this time I reached a live person. They were planning on finishing the installation that afternoon.

We were still afraid to get our hopes up, but at 1:30 pm they pulled in the driveway. At 3:00 pm they pulled out. Look what they left.





What a relief and what happiness. Now Becky can enter and exit the house independently. I can now leave her again for short periods of time. Naturally we celebrated by going for an ice cream.

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Happy Easter!





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Black Lentil Soup with Herbes de Provence


So here it is, finally, a recipe. This one comes from the food delivery box we received last month. It uses two of the ingredients which are noted in the recipe title.

You will need:
1tbsp olive oil
1 carrot, chopped
3 garlic cloves, we crushed them
1 c Black lentils
1 tsp salt, which we left out
5 c vegetable broth/stock
1 14oz can of diced tomatoes, we used crushed
1 onion, chopped
1 celery stalk, chopped, which we didn’t have
2 tbsp dry white wine
2 tsp Herbes de Provence
1/4 tsp cracked pepper
4 c baby spinach

Heat olive oil in a large pot and add onion, garlic, celery, and carrots. Cook for 5 mins.


Add the wine, lentils, tomatoes, Herbes de Provence, salt, pepper, stock, and give it a good stir. Bring to a boil, then reduce to a simmer.


Cover and cook for 40 mins. After 10 mins, we noticed the most amazing smell. Ooh, it smells good.

Five minutes before the end of cooking, add the chopped spinach.


And you’re done! Easy peasy. It results in a pretty thick soup.


Now for the taste test:
Becky – “yum”
Cheryl – “yum”

2 yums. Give it a go. It’s easy and nutritious. It was a great recipe for Good Friday as there was no meat. The herbs definitely add a lot of flavour, so try and find some.

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Surprise for Spring!

So far, 2015 has been a horrible year! Rather than moan and wail about our misfortune, I waited until there was something good to write about…and here it is.

Our food parcel arrived today! We were looking into several options during the frigid days of February. Unfortunately, many of these food parcel companies do not ship to Canada. Boo! We finally found one in Vancouver called “The Missing Ingredient”. They focus on Canadian businesses, and high quality ingredients.


As you can see, there is a real mix of food supplies. We have a jar of pasta sauce, a jar of herbs, black lentils, liquid smoke, a package of seasoning and a bar of organic chocolate. Guess which one we opened first. :-)


There were also four cards that arrived in the box.

There were two recipes including some of the ingredients, information about one of the food producers, and a cooking hint for the liquid smoke.

Becky and I were so excited at receiving the parcel, loved the surprise products, and are looking forward to cooking with most of them. (The chocolate won’t last)

This was our idea to cheer ourselves up during the coldest February on record. We just missed the February shipping date and had to wait a month, but it was worth it. We are well pleased. I think it will continue to warm us through a rather chilly March.

Bon appetit!

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New Year


This is what I did New Year’s Day; skated in Mississauga’s Celebration Square. I used to ice skate every week when I lived in Birmingham, but since moving to Canada, which is covered in ice and snow for several months, I think I have skated only three times. Once was on the Rideau Canal in Ottawa, which was wonderful, I think in Montreal one time, and New Year’s Day 2015.

My first week back at work has not been great. Temperatures plunged, so did parents tempers, Becky had several appointments, and I had to take my bus to Toronto unexpectedly. It was on a day when Becky had an appointment, but I was told I would be given another bus to drive. No problem. I dropped off my bus, a little later than expected due to snowy conditions, and waited for another bus, and waited, and waited. An hour was long enough. I asked what was going on. “We can’t start the bus we were going to give you” the mechanic said. “I have to go”, I told him. After a bit of a discussion, I finally took my bus back to Mississauga. What a waste of time and then I had race to get Becky to her appointment. It was a long appointment and I basically dropped her back at home and raced off to do my afternoon bus route. I was managing on half a cup of tea and a slice of toast, which I’d had at 6 am!

So as the days become more stressful, I think about ice skating. I remember the beautiful Christmas lights, the crisp air, and the feeling of freedom as I skated around and around without a care in the world. Lovely.

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